I believe the term “girly man” was used on Saturday Night Live for someone that did not have the muscle structure similar to our now idiotic California Governor Arnold Schwarzenegger. One point I got from this skit was how ridiculous people, like Arnold, are for thinking that physical strength will make them more manly.
Obviously his physical strength, by circumstance of popularity, has helped Arnold stumble into positions of power. This does not mean that he is actually a better man.
So, in my fact, a “girly man” does not follow this macho attitude that some members of society constructed and believe. This does not mean that non-macho men, classified as “girly” by some, are in touch with their feminine side or that they are gay. They are just men who do not follow a narrow mental path and/or do not give a crap about what the macho-mentality thinks.
I, for example, have been called a fag most of my life. In my younger years this was surprising, having sex with a man was not on my permanent record. Over the years I wondered why people would say this. Eventually I figured it out. I am a fag by their definition. Defined by generations of insecurity and hate.
Have I had sex with men? Yes. Have I had sex with women? Yes, more so then men, women rock. I am married to an awesome woman. Do you think I am a fag or a girly man? If so, you have missed the point and/or are still conditioned with macho-mentality.
On the playa I was riding this pseudo mechanical bull type animal on a spring while wearing a short skirt and torn fishnets. I do not remember which theme camp. The host was tossing me around pretty hard. I held on the entire time. Once finished, they guy said, “not bad for a guy wearing a skirt” and I physically replied by whipping out my penis and showing him all my metal. That disgusted him and made me laugh.
I figure some men are just plain jealous when they see men wearing something sensual, such as, the women’s low-rise jeans and a crop shirt that I wore on the playa. They are probably jealous because I/we look better then they or their girlfriend would in that outfit. Or maybe they are scared because it turns them on.
BTW, I work in construction and have more tools than some can dream of having.