vapor wrote:So I have a somewhat different perspective . . . I lay most of the blame on the parents or guardians of the teenager. If you take a teenager up to Burning Man you damn well better have some idea how they are going to act and react to the events at B'Man. You damn well better trust their judgement, because there is no way you'll keep them on a leash the whole time. You damn well should have "the serious talk" about behavior, consequences, communication and the seriousness of the event. And, let them know how to have fun safely. OR, if you don't trust them enough to not worry then don't bring them. Period. It's not like you can follow them around all the time with night scopes. It's not like you want to anyway. And if you've never been to the event then you really shouldn't take a kid your first year.
I say all this as a father who brought his teenage daughter (17) twice. We had "the talk", I walked the city with her for a few days and then she was on her own. I just asked that she let me know more or less what she was up to and more or less when she'd check back in, usually within about a 12 hour window. She loved it, she didn't get into any lasting trouble (meaning I didn't see any aftermath) and she'll go again on her own.
I completely agree with this. It's one thing to bring a child or teenager who has proven to be reliable and trustworthy in the default world onto the playa There is no way this girl was an otherwise respectful and responsible person, clearly she has behavioral problems that most likely manifest themselves in the default world. It can't be much of a shock to her parents that they've got an impulsive, selfish, and reckless teenage girl on their hands. I think it's incredibly naive to stick a young person like that in Kidsville and expect them not to rebel. Sure there are responsible parents who do great with their kids on the playa. But as someone who's grown up around festival culture, I've seen a lot of parents behave negligently in big event settings and there's no reason BM would be immune. We all know not everyone abides by the 10 principles and a lot of people have a hard time being responsible for their own actions. Once you add a bratty teen into the mix, we get situations like this where the community has to absorb the consequences. There WILL be parents who can't control their kids and teenagers, and they WILL bring their reckles, rebellious teenagers who want nothing more than to run away from Kidsville. This is a fact.