I suggest bookmarking the recent tent threads and trying to understand all the issues people bring up in general, and more specifically about staking and such. Some people need to pack for flying or ride sharing, some don't. Some need a tent tall enough to jump up & down in, but a backpacking tent can work fine if all you plan to do is sleep and you're not a privacy freak; and they're much better in the wind.
Also, you might start by going to decent outdoor stores eg REI
and note what brands and styles suit you, so you can go shop online and compare. Get inside a tent and imagine changing your underwear on a 100-degree day.
All my tents have been from the attic, yard sales or thrift shops. Anything can be made to work, but if you're on your own and don't expect to have much of a windbreak where you camp, a small 2- or 3-man tent with minimal mesh is best. Cheap family type tents do not hold up in direct wind, but small tents from Target or wherever do pretty well. A truck or van can help as a windbreak, along with using all guy line points on the tent.
Shade always helps, but rather than build a large frame structure you can use a lightweight nylon tarp strung between a couple of poles, eg the Kelty "Noah's Tarp", the Kelty Sunshade, or something similar. Or shade mesh strung from poles. Cheap blue tarps are too noisy when the rustle in the wind.