Herring wrote:It really sounds like you don't respect her at all. Dismissing her as a sparkle pony, assuming she'll be taken advantage of by her veteran burner campmates, not even inviting her to the burn with you, this is not how you treat a partner in an adult relationship. When the relationship falls apart, it will not be because of burning man, it will be because burning man brought out the lack of trust and mutual respect already poisoning your relationship.
To be fair, it's a "new girlfriend" so it is quite reasonable that he doesn't trust her simply because he doesn't know her very well. It's like relying on someone whom you don't really know to bring your camp equipment: do you naively rely on them out of "respect"? No, you take measures to ensure things go right. Of course you can't just bring more camping gear to fix this kind of problem.
Respect is built on trust, and trust is built on reputation, and reputation is built on time, experience, and trials. Some respect is given simply because people are acquaintances, regular friends, or for other social reasons. Other "respect" takes more time and patience to earn, especially with a "romantic partner." Letting your new girlfriend "roam free" in a place as unique, free, and even sexually charged as Burning Man... that may take a greater leap of faith.
Maybe the problem here is that sktELEMENT is expecting that he can control a situation involving someone for whom he has weak relationship-ties at an event like Burning Man. The short answer: he can't, not if he feels the need to even start a thread like this in the first place. The solution: it is what it is, and he shouldn't let what he can't control ruin both his and his girlfriend's burns.
Oh, and get some STD checks after the burn.