Just take care of each other and use a pair of excellent walkie talkies (put them in zip lock baggies to keep them as dust free as possible)...
Get enough sleep (bring good ear plugs and if you're so inclined then camp near "Hushville"), keep hydrated no matter how un-thirsty y'all think
you are, pee in reclosable water jugs at your camp and seal up your heavy duty trash bags real good (who needs to wait in line just to tinkle esp. when you're exhausted from arrival day??), keep as cool as possible (spray bottles are a must as are head coverings and sunglasses), use real good lip balm 'n' sun screen ALL DAY, keep as warm as possible at night- if necessary -(pack hoodies and layers), and keep fed enough (no matter how exhausted y'all may feel). Look out for each other all the while. Try to pack as light as possible focusing on survival more than luxury. You won't have much room for added luxuries even if you are in a camper trailer. Bring lots of film and batteries and store them in a cool place. Bring 2 cameras and shoot at will, if you remember to. It's futile to try to remember where you saw what or to try to catch something on film for sure. It's all stored up in your mind when it happens and is most enjoyable when lovingly preserved in there. Share share share and except gifts graciously or [i]not
[/i]... either way, just relax and enjoy.
As virgins, y'all aren't expected to participate... but it's more exciting if you do. I was a BMan virgin last year... as if you can't tell. One way to participate is to invite your neighbors over for a meal or some munchies or drinks or just easy conversation, but everyone is free and easy there and there aren't that many young children so you and your papa will be able to bring out the side of yourselves y'all have to hold back in everyday world life even with each other... or not
Mason and I made some special
banana bread and zuchini bread to trek around with us as we explored The Man and his city. That was one way we shared. People liked to share our bread with us. Ginger bread loaves are also quite tasty. The bread was moist enough, kept well in our packs, was light to carry, and was easy to bake the night before our trip. We didn't have to drink that much booze cuz the event itself is intoxicating in its own way. We varied between water water water, non-pulpy juices, and beer 'n' vino. We brought candy, but peeps seemed candied out so I'd recommend the bread, fruit roll ups, chewy bars, liquids, and stuff like that. Save the more luxurious food items for sharing at your campsite.
Center Camp is a must first see. You will get a good feel of the city from Center camp. The cafe has excellent tea and coffee for cheap inc. really beneficial rehydration suppliment packets (don't add the packets to any liquid except water or just chug down dry) and the cafe is a cool place to mellow out in or wake up in or have nice little chats with fellow burners in or meet up in if y'all get separated for too long. If you can, get ice together when needed. Y'all will need help carrying it back to camp and there are fun peeps in the Camp Arctica line plus you may get some free hugs by beautiful peeps on the way back to camp. Only bring cash for those two suppliers as that's all y'all will need money for really.
What happens at BMan stays at BMan-- if y'all want it to, that is.
Also, y'all don't have to be on the same sleep schedule, but will find that y'all will not want to sleep or eat much during the hottest part of the day (12 - 3pm) so get up early enough to have brunch and try to have dinner around 5ish when y'all get your second wind. AND y'all don't have to talk all the time. Quiet time is good. Silent observation, that's cool. Recapping the days events later is a'ight. These rules of thumb apply to young and old so don't be fooled by age. Burning Man has its own way of energizing the old and chillin' out the young.
A daily shower really feels good, but isn't necessary. Sponge bathe with wipes, but try to keep distracted from the perpetual feeling of grunge that the playa dust gives ya. Keep your feet well lubed, in socks, and sandals. The dust really chafes the poodnums. There are more concise foot protection tips in this website. Don't assume y'all be an exception to this health precaution cuz y'all won't. Otherwise, take this opportunity to be the stinky, unkempt guys you, and your papa always wanted to be-- free of guilt or ridicule. Enjoy the eye candy together. Help each other with all of those things even if the other person doesn't seem to be on the same wave length and stay patient with each other. Breathing room may sometimes be the thing that keeps the peace. Well maintained and decorated
bicycles are great for taking a quick 1 - 2 hour break from each other, but don't abuse this opportunity as it will result in a feeling of isolation and rejection in the other person.
Burning Man is an amazing exercise in humanity and free expression and you can't possibly experience it all even if y'all attend every day. When you have a companion- joint experiences can be really worth while. Keep to the maintenance and clean up agreement, but agree on a "no holds barred" in how you enjoy BMan itself inc. how you choose dress and interact with others. This goes for if the other person wants to be more conservative than you want to be. Respect each other and love each other with differences in mind. Beyond all of this, keep in touch in more ways than just knowing each other's location. Grow together in this as that's what all the time, energy, and expense is for... right??
There should be some tips on walkie talkie uses and how effective they are on the playa. Mas and I were together all the time. I did that so he'd be more at ease, but this year I'm going to take some of those 1 - 2 hour bike rides for my own inner callings to be independent from the pack.
As for down time, Mas and I listened to the BMan radio a lot so we didn't have to argue over what to play in the boombox then. It was fun, cheesy, intriguing and well worth listenin' to (and it only exists during the festival), but bothof you bring a lot of music, alternate music time, and expect a lot of dust to dirty it up. Music will help to inspire the both of you and is one comfort you should keep at camp.
Whatever you're expecting and whatever you're hoping for... you'll be quite surprised- hopefully in a good way -at what you'll end up with... just keep it together, man! Keep dedicated to each other experiencing BMan together as much as possible and keep a very open mind all the while then you will both be positively rewarded in your own unique fashions. But remember, most parents are accustomed to such intimacy with their children. BMan is a very intimate environment. It's very out there and in your face so give your papa a wide birth and go easy on him.
Warmly, The_Jen a/k/a Imagigrl