I keep having second thoughts about going because it costs so much damn money and I really want to invest in new records and maybe some new music gadgets (synths, midi controllers, etc.).
alienfry wrote:it's an addiction. and every year i hear myself and my buddies say "no, can't do it, have other things to explore and pay for" and every year we end up going. shit, i end up planning more and more every year.
i make it a point NOT to think about it or talk about.
but i can't help it.
anyhoo, when i'm adventuring on the playa i enjoy a mix of hanging with pals and going off alone. i socialize best in a group of 3. some nights the whole camp will go out. and sometimes (especially in the morning) i'll go off alone to just look at everything and meet the other morning-people, and the crack-heads who never went to bed.
i went on 2 dates last year. so fun.
to make a short story long, i like pancakes!
robbidobbs wrote:The phenomenon of being addicted to Playa dust is very common among those who inhabit the temporary town of Black Rock City. Do not be ashamed of it. Do NOT over-medicate. Embrace it, put a candle next to it, make it your own. The symptoms will increase in intensity in proportion to the number of days left before your next Burn.
At about 100 days, people have been known to go into giggling convusions. (This is a good time to self-medicate)
robbidobbs wrote:and their eyes have a propensity to glaze over when one prattles on and ON about Burning Man.
rodent wrote:It's just a camping trip in the desert folks.
rodent wrote:robbidobbs wrote:and their eyes have a propensity to glaze over when one prattles on and ON about Burning Man.
Almost everytime I start talking about Black Rock, I keep feeling like Alison Hannigan's character in "American Pie"
Part of BRC is about celebrating life... so don't forget to live it. There IS more to do in the real world besides plan on, talk about, and get ready for Burningman. There are still flowers to smell, pictures to paint, dreams to chase and beauty to create. And for godbuddhakrishnaallah's sake, don't forget...
It's just a camping trip in the desert folks.
JI hear ya, Monkey. As someone else on the thread said, it can be like coming stag to a party and feeling left out. (I paraphrase.) Both my years have had a simelier feeling. The first year, I came with my partner--but his big project/art/gift is being one of the EMTs in the medical branch, and I haven't the training or the temperment to keep up with him. It was also a tough time to be in ESD(then R)--its first year as a seperate department and there was some internal crap going on. It was also a strain on the relationship--I was hoping that my 4th year burner man could introduce me around and help me find my feet and it didn't work out that way. I ended up hanging out at the med station too much listening to people reminice about past glories--a pathetic time. Last year we were a bit better prepped for our different approaches, but still short on money and stressed and I had the same problems with heat and altitude. And he was really hard hit by Kathy Lampman's death and it was kind of a wash again. I almost don't know why I'm even considering going again. But I'm doggedly trying to post and contribute here, in the hopes of finding people and projects to get involved with so that this year it's different.Sea Monkey wrote:When I went to BM in 2001, I had a wonderful time, but was constantly saddened by the fact that none of my friends were there. I came with a group of complete strangers, none of whom really hung out with me much. Last year, I brought four friends with me and the whole week I was physically and mentally exhausted and didn't do much exploring except at night by myself. All of my friends went off and did their own thing all week. I have a hard time meeting people and socializing when I'm out on my own. This made both experiences at Burning Man frustrating and lonely.
But I'm doggedly trying to post and contribute here, in the hopes of finding people and projects to get involved with so that this year it's different.
I'm not sure if you and I have experienced the same thing, but what you went through sounds a lot like my experience, so I'll share it here and let you decide.
I had much of the same feelings about Burning Man during my first trip, overwhelmed and in awe but somewhat fearful and unsure of exactly where I fit into it all. I wanted to connect with people and contribute something unique and different so I came up with my idea for a chai cart. I thought I would just ride around and give out chai. The chai was a big hit and when people would see me ride by they would call out "Hey Chai Guy!", and this character (Chai Guy) started to develop organically over time.
I can do things as "Chai Guy" that I would never have the courage to do as myself. He's kind of like a super hero without super powers (unless you count bringing cold delicious chai to your theme camp or art installation as a super power). I could never walk into someone's theme camp and say "Hello" to a stranger, but Chai Guy can, and if Chai Guy get's rejected, it's no big deal, he just moves on to the next theme camp and it dosen't even phase him.
My friend Merlin calls these things "Strings", it's the stuff we use to break out of our shells and interact with other people. It dosen't have to be a tangible gift, it can be anything from a costume to a magic trick, to whatever your "thing" is. Merlin also taught me that it's important to sometimes put your strings away and just try being your real self every once in a while, and my positive experiences as Chai Guy has given me the confidence to do that.
Chai Guy is the person that I've always wanted to be, but fear and self doubt wouldn't allow me to be. I think I'm almost at the point of out growing him now.
So I guess that's my advice, create a character for yourself. Give him/her all the attributes that you desire of yourself, put on a mask or a cape or whatever clothes you envision your character to be in and make your presence known. If someone dosen't get it, or they reject you, move on and don't let it get you down, they're not rejecting you anyway, it's just this character you have created. Hope this helps!
I went and found a post by Chai Guy that addressed the “breaking out of one’s shell”. This is one of the most insightful and wonderful bits of advice I’ve seen and worthy of being passed on. I hope Chai Guy doesn’t mind me doing just that.
I can and will talk to anyone at the drop of a hat, but there are some social situations that just make me clam up. I become the typical wallflower... almost as if I’m waiting for someone to come up and say, “Hey... let’s go do something!”. I figure BM could easily be one of these situations if I let it.
Captain Goddammit wrote:[...]
One of the coolest things about BM is that you CAN just walk into pretty much any camp and everyone is your friend immediately.
Just being at Burning Man gives you plenty in common with everyone else.
I have and have always had two names in the world my "legal" name--which is on my id and checks and that I use at work and with people who just wont get my other name, and my "real" name that I use with intemates and people that I meet in certain situations. Both these were given to me by my mother. (Heck when they told my my legal name at age 3, I stamped my foot and insisted that it wasnt' me.) So for me the switch isn't a big deal, on a certain level. And I think that having two or more names is a real thing in the human psyche. IF you think of vous/tu, Sie/du, usted/tu for instance they represent 2 different levels of formality. I'd be happy with a third, a playa persona, name. Besides I love the basicness of playa names. You give people chai--you get called Chai Guy. It's like a cheesey western: Slim, Curly, Red. Our naming system is so formal these days that we don't go back to the beginning of names--nicknames. I think on of the ways that the playa gives us experiencing our basic humanity without some of the particular rules of our culture is the opportunity to use these names--as addressor and addressed.marnen wrote:Another point, inspired by Chai Guy's remarks on creating a playa persona that can do things that "yourself" can't: I found out about the custom of playa names/personae sometime before I first went to BM. I gave it some thought, and really didn't feel comfortable with the idea of adopting a separate identity; that feeling grew while I was at BM.
It's not that I mind going by another name or face for a while (heck, I'm in the SCA, I'm used to it), but for BM, it just felt wrong (for me, that is -- I'm not trying to judge anyone else). I think the reason had to do with my take on BM: that it is, at its best, a social experiment with results we can take back with us off the playa. I use the same name on and off the playa largely because I am the same person on and off the playa. I want the on- and off-playa segments of my life to interpenetrate -- not in the sense that BM becomes my life for the rest of the year, but in the sense that I can take lessons learned in one place and use them in the other as appropriate..
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