tamarakay wrote:Ken has been majorly down since we got home. Having a hard time adjusting back to work, grandbabies etc. He wants me to commit to a plan for next year so he can start making it happen. i'm wanting to discuss airstream vs. other options. that long haul was hard on our old truck. maybe trade it for something smaller, or fix up the one that died since it's smaller. find a box truck and make due, monkeyhut and tent. lots of options.
But all that doesn't explain his snappiness and totally out of character moodiness.
graidawg wrote:ken snappy and irritable? that is majorly out of character he was the most chilled of dudes back home. Me and mdf commented every morning how he would be up and about doing something practical, my suggestion dress playa for him put out a bottle of water and a stereo in another room playing bad dubstep. then invite him to the airstream when he is dressed suitably. That or start planning your next trip home now! I am its all that is keeping me sane.
Trishntek wrote: At times like that, it is easy to fall into this funk of self-pity and feel like I've been used and abused. "Everybody else is home and had a good time while I'm stuck here with this mess!"
I also discovered that my playa coat absolutely reeks of home in ways that dust alone just can't compete with and we've actually had one night cool enough to wear it - the fact that it likely freaks out my neighbors is just icing on the cake. It will be the last thing I clean and pack away.
pinemom wrote:Make every Saturday(or what ever your days off are together) BURN day! Wear your burny clothes and do all the mundane things that are on your to-do list in them, even laundry is funner when your dressed in Mermaid attire!
Listen to techno, when ever you can, even if you dont like it, it is the backdrop music of BRC.
Do a Tan sheet on your living room wall, dress up, take pictures! Add a fan and a small amount of playa...weeeeeeeee
Hug each other!!!!! We get so many hugs out there, every moment of the day and night, hug's are so frikken important.
Start your LISTS for next yr! Have fun with it, try to remember all the things you brought and didnt need vs. the ones you forgot but would have loved to have.
Look online for "outfit" idea's.
Go buy a Thrift store/garage sale, sewing machine, teach yourself how to use it!
Get a hot glue gun(super hot melt stick) for when the machine just cant do what you want it to do!
Go camping in your back yard! With funny desert food for dinner!
Remember that what your just went through was a Overdose of LOVE,Happiness and complete harmony. And it will take time to recover slowly.
And Most of all remember WE LOVE YOU!!!!!!!!!
Trishntek wrote:There is no way I can completely separate Burning Man from my daily life in SoCal. I loathe wearing socks and shoes but it is necessary for my work. I loathe wearing clothing in general but they are necessary for my work,,,, and to keep the neighbors out of my business,,,, sighhhh.
Every moment of my free time the shoes and socks are off and I'm wearing (or not) the same stuff I wear on the playa. I find comfort in bringing the burn home as much as possible. The schizophrenia of dividing me on the playa and me in defaultia is traumatic enough without denying who I really am.
The financial crunch of TTITD can be overwhelming. Find ways to work with others,,, there are so many ways to help one another get to BRC again. I'm already campaigning to recruit more locals for our camp next year. The thing that overwhelmed me this year was our arrival here. For the first time since Skylar and Alex arrived to help load the truck, Trish and I were alone.
Trish being in no shape to help me unload the truck, the entire mother ship was my sole responsibility. Unloading and cleaning the rental truck in a timely fashion, the sorting and cleaning,,,, the losing and finding,,,, I felt overwhelmed. At times like that, it is easy to fall into this funk of self-pity and feel like I've been used and abused. "Everybody else is home and had a good time while I'm stuck here with this mess!"
I'm sorry did somebody force me into all this? I give my head a shake and see the joy of happy campers and all the work they did on behalf of the camp during the burn. They treated me like a king! To look back and see how all this time, effort and treasure has effected so many lives gives me the boost I need. It challenges and motivates me to do it better next year.
Part of that "doing it better" is to get others more involved with the logistics. I've labored long and hard to create the infrastructure for a camp. But the camp is made of people,,,, not stuff. Now that the grunt work is done, I find myself searching for doing more. Ironic is it not? Touching lives and being touched by others is the great motivator. Don't shut those people out just because we're not waking to the site of them anymore.
If there is anything I can suggest for Ken, it is to reach out to fellow burners and allow himself to be his burniest throughout the year. Bring the burn home!
graidawg wrote:(though i do think i missed a few subtle clues in retrspect. still there is always next year)
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