"we aim to ensure that The Temples effectively and reliably deliver an experience of reverence, reflection, peace and togetherness to the largest possible cross-section of our community. We hold that the Temple and the experience of the people within it deserve enormous respect . . ." -- The Temple of Transition Crew
Everyone should come to understand and respect the way their fellow burners participate in this event. The Temple burn, as well as Burning Man as a whole, is the last place for anyone to be stubborn and say "this is how we all should behave". There aren't set rules or expectations for the event, or any one way we're supposed to act -- the only expectation is that, as a human, you look out for, assist, accommodate, and/or respect your fellow people at the burn. Burning Man is made possible by the idea of contributing to your community purely for the sake of the people within it. Not for money, but for the expectation that whoever you're accommodating is going to turn around and contribute to the community in some way themselves. Burning Man is the #1 place for "what goes around, comes around". If you treat others well, assist them, or keep yourself flexible to their needs, the same will be done for you.
Not everybody is going to be silent at the Temple burn, because it's unfair to say that everybody should. If somebody wrote a prayer on the wall of the Temple directed at his/her deceased loved one, and is filled with so much ecstasy and joy from seeing their pain and suffer fly up into the air in flames that they cheer and roar, the person next to them who decides to be silent should understand and respect that. If the noise bothers them, move further away where it's quieter. Or, on the other side, if you are the louder one, move closer to the people who also want to be loud -- away from the silent mourners. Respect has to be mutual. Both parties need to accommodate each other, because the event is FOR them both -- the community as a whole.
As for the people who attend the Temple burn for the sake of seeing it burn, you have to understand that many people use the temple as a means of acceptance or peace after a loved one has passed. Some people put the very ashes of those loved ones inside the temple to be burned along side it. It's an huge deal for many mourners, so you have to weigh which is more important: a fellow human gaining peace and happiness, or you screaming your head off at the sight of fire. If you've placed yourself among a group of people who wish to meditate in silence on the burning of the temple, respect that and either be silent as well, or move towards a group of people who are celebrating the life of a passed loved one with cheering. Or, if you're somebody who wants to be silent during the burn, and you've placed yourself near a group of cheering people and art cars, you've made a mistake. Move to a quieter location. I decided I wanted to be silent during the burn, so I set up about 300' from the temple. It was beautiful, amazingly profound experience -- and I couldn't hear a thing except for the crackling of the temple in flames.