Titty Grabbers

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Titty Grabbers

Postby dangerbarbie » Thu Sep 18, 2003 9:15 am

I have a bit of a story of sexual violence. Not so much violence as just plain stupid drunk behavior. I was bartending on our art car (MBL Bus) the morning after the burn and this teenager had been hanging around for quite some time. Well over the course of a few hours he had managed to make himself too many drinks ( I wasn't serving him) and thought that my tits had become an item on the bar menu. He was behind me and put his hands inside my furry bikini top and wouldn't let go of my breasts. Now I consider myself a pretty open person and most of my friends have come in contact with my tits and some point, but I did not know this guy and it actually scared me quite a bit that he did this and then wouldn't get off of me. We had to kick him of the bus and then walk him about 50 feet away from where we were. He came running back yelling at us at acting like a fool and my male friends had to wrestle him to the ground. This was something I never expected to see at Burning Man. It was quite a downer, especially at the end of the week. I just wish that everyone would realize they need to take some serious responsibilty for themselves and not rely on their friends to hold their hair back or carry them to bed etc. And...if you see someone in need...give them some water, take them to their camp, do something! It will make everyone's BM experience that much better!
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Postby glam_daddy » Thu Sep 18, 2003 9:33 am

I am sorry to hear of this but am glad you had some people around to help you deal with this situation. sounds like a youngin' with too much drink thrown into a situation he just wasnt used to dealing with. hopefully he woke the next morning regretting his actions. ... if he even remembered a damn thing...
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Postby sugarlarry » Thu Sep 18, 2003 4:14 pm

You know... I've never been that drunk. Sure... I've imbibed a substance or two that has "made" me *ahem* grab a friend's boob now and again, but nothing that was unwelcome, unsexy, or at the very least found to be funny by the person I've just grabbed.

Grabbing a stranger, not letting go, and then getting mad for being dragged off suggests more then a bad drunk. Too bad your friends didn't escort him all the way to the gate, or the nearest ranger station. Sorry to hear 'bout your experience! Hope it didn't totally blow your burn.
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Postby jbelson » Thu Sep 18, 2003 4:19 pm

Whatever he was drinking, don't serve that anymore. Sounds like it was tequila :o
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Postby Booker » Thu Sep 18, 2003 5:18 pm

especially at the end of the week


That sorta stuff is way MORE likely at the end of the week when the yahoos descend (in every sense of that term).

I just wish that everyone would realize they need to take some serious responsibilty for themselves and not rely on their friends to hold their hair back or carry them to bed etc. And...if you see someone in need...give them some water, take them to their camp, do something


I'm seeing a bit of a contradiction there. Not wanting to bust your chops overly much, but do you wanna unpack a little how those fit together?
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Postby stuart » Thu Sep 18, 2003 5:52 pm

assuming, from his actions, he was hetero, it would have been fun for some of your male friends to grab his junk and not let go. See how he liked the unwelcome advance.
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Postby Lydia Love » Thu Sep 18, 2003 6:21 pm

grab his junk and not let go.


This, I think, is just the kind of reminder this guy needed and much less violent than my own reaction would have been.

And I'm finding the word "junk" to be hilarous in this context.
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Postby Chai Guy » Thu Sep 18, 2003 8:05 pm

Sometimes people just need a good ass beating, even at Burning Man.
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ass grabbers too

Postby dangerbarbie » Fri Sep 19, 2003 9:36 am

Well I guess I don't have to be at Burning Man to have someone grab my body. I was at a Giant's game yesterday and had my ass grabbed by two different men (well not really men, more like pricks). I mean full on ass grab! I don't know what the world is coming to. Maybe I should start wearing armor or something.

As for my contradicting statement...I think partaking in BM means you are accepting the responsibilty that you are part of a community. Yes you need to take care of yourself, but there are going to be people that go overboard and need some help. How hard is it to go slightly out of your way to assist them? I know I was fully responsible for myself at BM, and the mornings I was cracked out and felt like shit...that was my fault. But I had a few friends who I needed to keep an eye on, and I did it because I love them and care about them. I know the two concepts contradict one another, but hey...BM is one big contradiction in itself. Like why did it cost me $1000 to get to a place where I can't use money????
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Postby Badger » Fri Sep 19, 2003 9:49 am

Sometimes people just need a good ass beating, even at Burning Man.


Or what we say in North Carolina... "That boy needs a mud hole stomped in his ass."
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Postby Lothar » Fri Sep 19, 2003 12:11 pm

see below
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Postby Lothar » Fri Sep 19, 2003 12:12 pm

Is this a common ocurrance for women? This seems strange to me as a child of the "Don't do anything to women or it's sexual harassment" eighties... they brainwashed me not to make a move unless it's practically in writing.

It seems to me these guys must get some positive feedback from the experience otherwise they wouldn't do that sort of thing... I don't understand it. Maybe my booze just isn't strong enough =P
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Re: On a grope, on a grope got me hanging on a grope

Postby Jordan 10-E » Fri Sep 19, 2003 12:17 pm

Lothar wrote:It seems to me these guys must get some positive feedback from the experience otherwise they wouldn't do that sort of thing... I don't understand it.


Yeah they get to touch a breast or ass that they would never otherwise experience in their ultimately pathetic lives. Losers.

Sorry to hear that happened DangerBarbie.
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Postby precipitate » Fri Sep 19, 2003 1:54 pm

> Is this a common ocurrance for women?

Rarely happens to me now. Used to happen a lot when I was a teenager.
I'm told that I don't give off that "touch me" vibe, whatever that means.
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Postby Rob the Wop » Fri Sep 19, 2003 2:04 pm

precipitate wrote: I'm told that I don't give off that "touch me" vibe, whatever that means.


Could it be the semi-auto high powered rifles?
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Postby precipitate » Fri Sep 19, 2003 2:10 pm

Naw, they don't even see the card and they don't try to touch me. And
all the guys who've seen me with a firearm regard that as a plus.
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Postby Kinetic » Fri Sep 19, 2003 11:09 pm

precipitate wrote:Naw, they don't even see the card and they don't try to touch me. And
all the guys who've seen me with a firearm regard that as a plus.


No touching but that doesn't mean we still don't look. I mean you even have your own trading card! Sheesh, this is quickly turning into something for the "Crush" thread.....

Seriously I don't think I'd wanna mess with you Precip....I'll keep my distance.
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Postby liebling » Sun Sep 21, 2003 10:02 am

oh my stars!

i brought my daughter to burning man for her 18th birthday in 2000. the two of us were walking down a street one evening just talking and seeing the sites of neighboring camps. i had dyed my body blue that year, and was only wearing shorts and sandals.

some older drunk dude SCREAMS from his camp "BLUE BOOBIES!" and comes staggering at top speed hands out, grabbing at me. his son, who looks to be my age tries to apologize for dad, but ends up trying to get me to LET the old codger fondle me. i did let them get our pictures, but i had to keep fighting this old dude who was all hands.

i was embarrassed for my daughter. but she's cool.

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Postby Kinetic » Sun Sep 21, 2003 10:12 am

What a total jackass.

If I saw that I'd find a way to put my size 14 foot right in his way so he'd trip and fall on his face. Then he'd get a nice lecture about respecting people. Being drunk is no excuse for that kind of behavior. If there was ever a time for a guy to get slapped on his ass, that was it.
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Postby Stormy » Sun Sep 21, 2003 10:29 am

precipitate wrote:> Is this a common ocurrance for women?

Rarely happens to me now. Used to happen a lot when I was a teenager.
I'm told that I don't give off that "touch me" vibe, whatever that means.


Yeah these sorts try and look for the path of least resistance. Women who are young, or petite, or "friendly" seem to get the brunt of this BS. It sucks to have to be aloof or give off the don't "touch me" vibe, but it's the only thing that seems to work. I hate it when guys tell me I need to smile more or be less tough. Sometimes, I'm grateful that I'm no longer in my 20s or a size 5. I get a lot less harrassment these days.
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Postby goathead » Sun Sep 21, 2003 5:10 pm

The only man at BM who has fondled my wifes boobs is me. But the girls at BM seem to really enjoy making them bounce, and massaging them. At sunset a couple of years ago we where wandering around and one girl came out from her camp made like she was juggling them and then licked them. My wife and I both just laughed like hell, and then made her do it again so we could get a pic of it.
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Postby antron » Sun Sep 21, 2003 5:13 pm

precipitate wrote:Naw, they don't even see the card and they don't try to touch me. And
all the guys who've seen me with a firearm regard that as a plus.


who can resist the charms of a well-armed woman?
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Postby Kinetic » Sun Sep 21, 2003 8:03 pm

antrony wrote:
precipitate wrote:Naw, they don't even see the card and they don't try to touch me. And
all the guys who've seen me with a firearm regard that as a plus.


who can resist the charms of a well-armed woman?


It's very difficult but Olivia and her purple hair seem to hold more charm lately. No firearms needed.
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Postby Guest » Sun Sep 21, 2003 8:22 pm

Lothar wrote: [This seems strange to me as a child of the "Don't do anything to women or it's sexual harassment" eighties... they brainwashed me not to make a move unless it's practically in writing.
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So puzzling . . . I'm being totally conditioned to grab breasts. Of course, I'm nine months old, so what do I know.

Poppa says that unless you're still nursing, this is wrong. I guess he's the daddy around here, so I'll have to go with that. Still, when I'm old enough to get drunk on anything but milk it could be a challenge. He definitely supports the 'grabbing his nuts' treatment, whatever that means. I've only ever had my sack lovingly towled dry. What a complex world you adults live in.[/quote]
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Postby TawnyGnosis » Mon Sep 22, 2003 4:56 am

"Yeah these sorts try and look for the path of least resistance. Women who are young, or petite, or "friendly" seem to get the brunt of this BS"

Yeah, I get plenty of BS let me tell you. My friend was just commenting on this yesterday in fact, she said that because I look young and "malleable", that I'm likely target for some creep. I seem to have a ( bad) freak radar tracking device on me sometimes.

They just don't realize that I'm able to handle myself just fine and hold my own space quite well. My outer appearance is aparently quite difference than what's really inside me I suppose. maybe I'm not pierced or depressed enough yet.

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Postby JonoVision » Mon Sep 22, 2003 8:44 am

Yeah I'm with the "child of the 80s" bit on this -- I just could not conceive of doing something like that, boozed to the gills or not. Sure, I've made my share of unwanted advances over the years, but strictly verbal. It's kind of a shame though, after being raised by a tough-as-nails single mum with a firm sense of feminism, I have a hard time even expressing attraction for fear of being offensive. Usually it gets to the point of the femme getting really PO'd and saying something along the lines of "so are we gonna fuck or what" before I can let the floodgates go.

But I'd rather have missed opportunities and not made women uncomfortable, on the whole.
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Postby buzcut » Mon Sep 22, 2003 2:38 pm

no one grabbed my titties... then I dont have any.....but I did have a Rager rub my butt for a few min...


that was very odd.....
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Postby CaptainCarrie » Mon Sep 22, 2003 3:00 pm

I had a drunk asshole randomly lift up my dress one evening at a playa bar. I hit him. Ooops!
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Postby Stormy » Mon Sep 22, 2003 7:59 pm

buzcut wrote:no one grabbed my titties... then I dont have any.....but I did have a Rager rub my butt for a few min...


that was very odd.....


Did you like it? ;)
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Postby PJ » Mon Sep 22, 2003 8:36 pm

buzcut wrote:I did have a Rager rub my butt for a few min.


Is a Rager a cross between a Ranger and a Raver?
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