Patience wrote:Your scenario doesn't sound racist to me at all. A little presumptuous, but not racist.
Yeah, it is a little presumptuous, me thinking I know what's going through those kids' minds. But finding an explanation that made sense to me has helped me feel less angry in crosswalk-like situations, which is a huge benefit for someone w Type A tendencies. Now what to do about the Chinese drivers (intentionally racist remark....) Just kidding, but I have found over the past few years that much of my thinking about race has happened while I'm driving, when somehow I find myself noticing a transgressor's race much more than I would just going about my business in a normal (non-driving) manner. I think it's because when we see stupid road behavior, we like to think to ourselves "ah, I would never do something so dumb because I'm different from that person." It helps us feel superior. And when we're looking to distinguish ourselves from another person whose behavior we don't like, if the person is of another race, we tend to stop w that distinction. If the person is of the same race, we look at gender. At least, I think.
Isotopia, I used to wait tables a lot. Sometimes a black table would tip poorly, but sometimes they'd leave a big tip. We also used to complain about old people's tipping habits, you know, two quarters in the ashtray and such...