Don't know if it'll fit the thread, but here goes...
I love someone because they have a beautiful voice
and because they feel hurt more deeply then most
and because they are smart in ways that i am not
and because they have sparkly eyes that shine on a soul more complicated then most
and because they have great posture, a winning smile, and a way with words
and because they have an energy that comes from some strange fire that i don't recognize.
and simply because I do.
Someone wrote that there can be no love where there is fear. I feel that this is not true. I think when a heart is completely filled with love (a pretty hard trick to pull off), then there exists the potential for there to be no room for fear. But we're all complicated beings, and there usually exists within us a variety of feelings at any one time. It's unfortunate but love can coexist with fear.
Love is the opposite of hate.
Love is about actions, not thoughts or desires or even words. Thoughts can be all over the map. So can actions if you let them. We all like to think that for the most part, our values guide our actions rather then our thoughts. When we let our values guide our actions, even when they are in conflict with our thoughts, then we have done the ones we love a service.
I see a lot of words on the eplaya that resonate with me, love, judgemental, negativity, community, support, expectations, bitter, children, abuse, over-analyzing, compassion, fire. I'm learning from them, and I love the mass of what youhave created.
Love and compassion are closely related. But one can override the other in a bad way. Love can make you blind to a person's problems, and then your compassion is fucked up because you don't know where your compassion should lie. Sometimes one has to be compassionate to oneself, over the love you feel for another. When you're blind to a person's problems, you can't really love them because they are an idealized dream. Not a real person. It's intoxicating to be in such a state, but like any intoxicant, it tends to make you do stupid and goofy things.
I like that there are many kinds of love. As many kinds of love exist as there are forms of the wind.
I also think that love and fire share a lot in common. Both can burn brightly or lie beneath the surface like warm coals.
And long-term love is like a shape that's been tempered in a fire. Stronger from the experience to withstand the criticisms and disagreements, the disappointments and heartaches, the inevitable bending of one's dreams and hopes to the reality of trying to make a friendsip work.
Love is about the feeling you get when you see a loved one smile.
I've seen unrequited love described as tortuous or the worst. I don't think it has to be. It's only when one expects a certain set of actions to flow from the other person that the unrequited love can be painful. Expect nothing, and you can still love them with a happy heart. I wouldn't recommend putting a lot of actions into that love, as they may just be time wasted on not acting out your love on others, but I don't think the love itself has to be painful.
The tempering of love in the field of actions can be a real test of values. If you love someone with a problem, say a drug problem, you can 'love' them by getting them a dose. But if your values lead you to recognize that this is bad for the person, then the actions should be to get them away from their problem. Even though you may fear that they will strike out at you or stop loving you. That's when choice enters the love equation. When you have to choose to help someone by telling them, I can't do that with you.
Love is about wanting someone to win, about believing they are capable of winning, and about supporting them in their efforts to win.
Love is hoping peace and completeness find that person, even while recognizing you may never be able to bring it to them.
Love can color everything like the uncovering light at sunrise. Sometimes that cover can get ripped away, leaving the harsh light of the midday, but the imprint of those colors can last a lifetime, and they can help put a sunscreen on everything you see so you don't have to focus solely on the defects revealed by the harsher light. And another day always comes with another chance to love.
Love is about renewal, and finding ways to love again.