I just go anyways...
For the last 9 years, I've either been an undergrad, a teacher, a graduate student, a university professor, and now a doctoral student. First year.
You just make it happen.
You don't take now for an answer. You tell them how important it is to your life and your work.
For me, I have the choir and I sang with Acaplaya, so as a music professor, it only makes the school look better. (reason # 59, I don't teach elementary, because I need to be free to continue to live outside my work)
Seriously, it can be done. You just have to be willing to bust your ass when you get back, and it almost always sucks.
but I'm on year 9 and will demand I keep going, or I won't take that job...
at least for now, maybe I'll get all disgruntled with the playa one day and just not want to go. but for now, the dma program can wait.
I'm a better teacher for it, there is NO DOUBT ABOUT THAT....
Blessed Cecilia, appear in visions to all musicians, (including me), appear and inspire