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by **alice** » Fri Oct 17, 2003 4:48 pm

see ya!

by **Alpha** » Fri Oct 17, 2003 5:00 pm

have fun storming the castle!

by **Isotopia** » Fri Oct 17, 2003 7:45 pm

Ciao-ciao bambino.

by J » Fri Oct 17, 2003 8:37 pm

God speed little lady.

J

by **DE FACTO** » Fri Oct 17, 2003 9:30 pm

have fun. hurry up back.
damn. i wanted you to see this stuff before you left. oh well, it just gives me a little more time to make it all better.

by **Flux** » Fri Oct 17, 2003 9:49 pm

Mighty quiet around here. All I can hear is the gentle crack of hearts breaking everywhere, as Alice is off to be wed.

Console yourselves however you must, gentlemen. For me, it'll be a bottle of Scotch in one hand, and a tube of KY in the other.

<sniff>

by **DE FACTO** » Fri Oct 17, 2003 9:51 pm

meee tooo <sniff> well by myself of course.

by **Blue's Clues** » Fri Oct 17, 2003 10:25 pm

Flux wrote:Mighty quiet around here. All I can hear is the gentle crack of hearts breaking everywhere, as Alice is off to be wed.

Console yourselves however you must, gentlemen. For me, it'll be a bottle of Scotch in one hand, and a tube of KY in the other.

<sniff>

hear hear!

by **Lydia Love** » Fri Oct 17, 2003 10:31 pm

bottle of Scotch in one hand, and a tube of KY in the other.

Well, for fucks sake don't mix the two up

by **DE FACTO** » Fri Oct 17, 2003 10:34 pm

i don't care what anybody says. polyamory is a bitch.......well sometimes.

by **Lydia Love** » Fri Oct 17, 2003 10:36 pm

I have yet to see polyamory work in practice. Someone always seems to feel left out in the cold. But that's from the outside looking in - someone must be making it work out there.

by **Flux** » Fri Oct 17, 2003 10:38 pm

Lydia Love wrote:
I wrote:bottle of Scotch in one hand, and a tube of KY in the other.

Well, for fucks sake don't mix the two up

Ouch! And yuck! I'll do my best to, um, keep it straight.

Oh, and by the way, I love you, Lydia!

by **Lydia Love** » Fri Oct 17, 2003 10:40 pm

I'm just lookin out for your best interest Flux.

Love back atcha

by **DE FACTO** » Fri Oct 17, 2003 10:40 pm

bottle of Scotch in one hand, and a tube of KY in the other.

Well, for fucks sake don't mix the two up

shit too late

by **SED** » Fri Oct 17, 2003 10:41 pm

I just wet myself again. Sigh.

by **Flux** » Fri Oct 17, 2003 10:41 pm

Lydia Love wrote:I have yet to see polyamory work in practice. Someone always seems to feel left out in the cold. But that's from the outside looking in - someone must be making it work out there.

My wife and I were just talking about that last night. We came to the conclusion that, as our relationship is apparently so totally different from everyone else's, the fact that polyamory works for us means nothing in terms of it working for anyone else. Ah well, c'est la vie.

by **DE FACTO** » Fri Oct 17, 2003 10:43 pm

i still say she's an excellent marketing ploy.

by **Lydia Love** » Fri Oct 17, 2003 10:44 pm

Do you two break any hearts along the way? What do you think is the key to making it work for you?

Just curious - and I don't think I'm sleeping any time soon

by **Flux** » Fri Oct 17, 2003 10:45 pm

Speaking of polyamory, Lydia, you could go check out the The Institute for 21st Century Relationships conference in Seattle this weekend and let us know what you find out!

XOXO, Flux

by **Lydia Love** » Fri Oct 17, 2003 10:48 pm

Institute for 21st Century Relationships conference in Seattle

Well hell, that would have been interesting - can't make it though - the weekends already full up

by **DE FACTO** » Fri Oct 17, 2003 10:55 pm

Lydia Love wrote:Do you two break any hearts along the way? What do you think is the key to making it work for you?

Just curious - and I don't think I'm sleeping any time soon

i'm curious too.

by **Flux** » Fri Oct 17, 2003 11:07 pm

Lydia Love wrote:Do you two break any hearts along the way? What do you think is the key to making it work for you?

Just curious - and I don't think I'm sleeping any time soon

No, I don't think either of us has broken any hearts. We've had some potential relationships that didn't work out, and some that seemed to be going along fine and then fizzled out, but no broken hearts so far (thank goodness!).

We concluded last night that the key to poly working for us is the fact that, as corny as it might sound, we really are one another's best friends. She knows me better than anyone, and I her. We talk about everything, including our other relationships, totally openly and honestly.

When I was in SoCal last week and she had some issues with a friend and potential lover, she called me, and we talked for about two hours about what was going on. Last Saturday, a lover freaked out on me and I subsequently freaked out pretty hard myself. Julie talked and listened with me over the next couple of days. Apparently, this kind of closeness is pretty rare, even among polyamorous people.

(Just in case you're wondering, no, we don't have that kind of drama all the time! It's just been one of those times with lots of changes going on.)

We really do feel remarkably blessed with one another. We have, over the course of 22 years, reached a balance as friends, lovers, and partners that seems just perfect for us, and it just keeps getting better.

So, I think that's why it works for us where it doesn't (or doesn't as well) for quite a few others. Of course, all of that would be good if we were strictly monogamous, too.

(I just read this to her and she said, "That's great!")

Does that answer your question?

by **DE FACTO** » Fri Oct 17, 2003 11:10 pm

well shit....22 years? that's cheating.

i'll never find anything like that.

by **Lydia Love** » Fri Oct 17, 2003 11:13 pm

Flux, that is great. Thanks for the answer.

De Facto - you might not find something exactly like that ... but you may find something just as great *for you*.

by **Raheer** » Sat Oct 18, 2003 1:04 am

Flux wrote:
Lydia Love wrote:I have yet to see polyamory work in practice. Someone always seems to feel left out in the cold. But that's from the outside looking in - someone must be making it work out there.

My wife and I were just talking about that last night. We came to the conclusion that, as our relationship is apparently so totally different from everyone else's, the fact that polyamory works for us means nothing in terms of it working for anyone else. Ah well, c'est la vie.

Well, my fiance and I manage to make it work. (Just as long as we do each other sometimes...)!

Raheer

by **Flux** » Sat Oct 18, 2003 1:11 am

Raheer wrote:Well, my fiance and I manage to make it work. (Just as long as we do each other sometimes...)!

Yes, that does help! We're so into supporting one another in our other relationships, and so busy at home with kids, etc., that sometimes we have to remind ourselves to make that a priority, too.

by **Raheer** » Sat Oct 18, 2003 1:27 am

My fiance and I have set things up so that weekends are for us alone, and the rest of the week is for whatever (and whomever) we wish to do....

Raheer

by **joel the ornery** » Sat Oct 18, 2003 4:12 am

alice wrote:see ya!

Bye bye... where did she go?

Regarding polyamory.... I wish they would have taught it in the schools when I was attending.

After an adult life of serial monogamy, I think polyamory is a far better choice... now if I can convince my current mate.

by **DE FACTO** » Sat Oct 18, 2003 4:22 am

Lydia Love wrote:De Facto - you might not find something exactly like that ... but you may find something just as great *for you*.

Well thanks for being positive. Not in my lifetime though.

Flux and the rest of you guys, you have it made.

I am really happy for you guys.

Maybe Lydia is right, that would be nice.

In the meantime .............I'd rather watch.

Oh and hey , nice avatar Lydia.

by **Spokes** » Sat Oct 18, 2003 9:11 am

Bye bye... where did she go?

To get married. Anybody know her expected date of return?

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