lazerfox wrote:I didn't fake smiling...I do it uncontrollably...one of my faults/gifts.
It didn't help me much when I was in certain parts of the city.
It was pretty strange, I have no problem meeting new people in RL but that just wasn't the case at BM (with the exception of the people I had already had some form of contact in RL like eplaya or FB).
I'll have to look more into this and maybe survey people along my week to see if it is something I'm doing to chase them away
Comrade Bunny wrote:I used to be terribly shy. Then. I came out of my shell and became an extrovert. In the last few years, I've become more and more shy. The problem is anxiety. I have very intense anxiety that has greatly impacted my life. I'm agoraphobic and have conversion disorder. I know it will be very difficult for me in the beginning. I expect to have at least one panic attack. That is not what worries me the most. My conversion disorder manifests as trembling and twitching. If it's really bad, it looks like I'm having a seizure.
I became agoraphobic because I'm terrified of people seeing me when this happens. I'm terrified of how people would react to this at BM.
I'm also worried about being a fat, old (37) lady.
I am going as a birgin, though, in 2013. My sister (who will be my brother by then), is getting married at BM. She has been there twice before. I'm designing a theme camp at her request and helping plan the wedding. I'll also be making costumes for myself and my roommate. I love wearing costumes and can't wait to do so at BM. My personal theme is "Oooooh Sparkly."
I'm looking forward to BM, but I'm also terrified. I love the advice given so far. I love any other advice people might have for me.
tamarakay wrote:I swear Savannah you make my heart bigger.
DanusLight wrote:tamarakay wrote: Come by my camp and we will go surveying together. Plus you will have a fabulously self decorated scarf to use as an icebreaker
I. CAN'T. WAIT.
Oh we have more survey takers! Sweet!!
JesseGrrl2009 wrote:As someone who has always been very shy I was so excited that I stumbled upon this thread. SO many great tips, especially for a shy burner virgin who was feeling sort of intimidated about facing a 50,000+ community of people who seem way more outgoing. These are great tips, excellent work
tamarakay wrote:JesseGrrl2009 wrote:As someone who has always been very shy I was so excited that I stumbled upon this thread. SO many great tips, especially for a shy burner virgin who was feeling sort of intimidated about facing a 50,000+ community of people who seem way more outgoing. These are great tips, excellent work
Welcome to the group! Jump on in, we are (mostly ) nice people
tamarakay wrote:... naked bike ride people...
tamarakay wrote:Well, I have to provide room for a dance floor already, so when not dancing we could plonk out the trampoline if anyone has one. Oh dear, I just had a visual of the naked bike ride people participating
I can still talk when I have one, so that's not the issue. I find it so humiliating when everyone around me gets upset, but I'll power through it I guess.
Savannah wrote: "Will you walk me to the shade?" "Can I lay down in the RV for a while?" or "I think I need a juicebox and a snack, could you help me out please?"
bigdane wrote:brody wrote:Smile. Seriously. Shy people are sometimes seen as angry, aloof, haughty, unfriendly, you name it. Pretend you’re outgoing. Yeah, it’s terrifying. Do it anyway. Burning Man is a good place to practice looking friendly. Smile at everyone until your face hurts. Then take some ibuprofen and smile some more.
brilliant brody...most people will immediately respond favorably to a smile. And my experience has been that afterward conversation develops almost on its own...especially in an evironment of "like-minded" people. I'm a huge fan of the ...fake it till ya make it philosophy...
thanks for ALL the great tips!!
Savannah wrote:Sometimes nothing is better than a solemn person in bunny ears.
I used to wear animal ears or a santa hat when I was lifeguarding near the holidays, because I knew my face would go blank with concentration, and the swimmers would get a kick out of the contrast between my face and my, uh . . . flair.
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